The Truth About Abortion

I was surprised by the news, but then, I wasn’t surprised. I was traveling somewhere when I got the call that she had died. I’ve never been able to decide what a good age for dying is, but she was close to my age and I know that is too young.

I couldn’t say that we were friends or that I knew her very well. Why she chose me I’ve never figured out, but every once in a while she would call. I still don’t know why she felt she could trust me. Maybe it was because I didn’t know her very well and that we seldom saw each other. She could call me when she wanted, but didn’t have to mess with me, or what I knew, unless it was her idea.

The calls always came from out of the blue, but they were all alike. She had had an abortion 30 years ago, and regardless of how the conversation began it eventually moved to “will God ever forgive me?” I assured her each time that when Jesus died on Calvary He paid the price for every sin – including all of hers. For some reason, she was never able to translate that intangible fact into a personal experience. How do you convince a woman who has carried a burden for 30 years that it is okay to lay it down? What do you say to a mother who has grieved for 30 years for a child she never held? After every call I would be numb for hours.

Some say that abortion is a quick and easy fix. I know better. I wonder how many women are living in a private hell, suffering just like this lady did, stepping out of the darkness only with the help of a chemical fix, hoping to find help in the counsel of some stranger, afraid that those she loves would hate her if they knew the truth?

It is time that the truth is told.

Want to know the truth?

The last I checked, both male and female participation was required to produce a child.

If men waited until they were married and remained faithful to their wives and honored their marriage vows, the demand for abortion would be severely lessened.

If men would stop being cowards and would take responsibility for their decisions and back their promises with real action, the demand for abortion would be reduced.

If men would consider the emotional needs of a woman rather than seeking gratification of their own physical desires, fewer women would be emotional basket cases because of the choices they are left to deal with alone.

And if both men and women would realize that the time to consider whether or not they want a child, can afford a child, or are fit to raise a child is before they become intimate NOT after, the need for abortion would disappear.

The truth is that men can lower the abortion rate by really being MEN!

©2006 Doug Ellingsworth